Maybe despite caring about them, you care more about the person you cheated with. I can only think that it's because my husband and I randomly mentioned it comparing it to booze in passing a couple days ago. He cant be helped. . . 1. Only more problems will be created. . . Its the lies that destroy people and then to take away that one last part of them that they have a connection with is worse than the actual lies. . . Oct 30, 2022 Talk about your marriage with someone who is objective, trustworthy, and willing to let you talk until you figure out the best next step in your life. This is a common thing that people say they cant understand, but I feel that it is helpful to try to understand all peoples experiences, and empathize. . 15 years of marriageis a lie.